A surrogate reveals what she does with unused breast milk after giving birth

A surrogate has revealed how traveling in an RV with her family helps fight the baby blues.

Samantha Matthews, 31, of Springfield, Massachusetts, lives with her husband Dan Matthews, 34, a podcast host, and their two children, Canyon, six, and Ember, four.

Following the birth of Sam’s first surrogate baby, also known as the “Surro” baby, they are currently touring the United States in a giant RV.

Speaking to FEMAIL, she said: “In order to beat the postpartum blues, we chose to live a full-time RV life in order to travel and spend time as a family and spend time with our kids rather than about it thinking about giving birth to a baby that didn’t come home with us.

Samantha Matthews, 31, of Springfield, Massachusetts, lives with her husband Dan Matthews, 34, a podcast host, and their two children, Canyon, six, and Ember, four. They are currently traveling in an RV across the United States following the birth of Sam's first surrogate baby, aka the

Samantha Matthews, 31, of Springfield, Massachusetts, lives with her husband Dan Matthews, 34, a podcast host, and their two children, Canyon, six, and Ember, four. They are currently traveling in an RV across the United States following the birth of Sam’s first surrogate baby, aka the “Surro” baby

On Instagram and Facebook, Sam, pictured during pregnancy, shares her experiences and recommendations for others interested in surrogacy, saying women can work independently or with an agency

On Instagram and Facebook, Sam, pictured during pregnancy, shares her experiences and recommendations for others interested in surrogacy, saying women can work independently or with an agency

“I’m happy to say that I’ve been doing really well emotionally and mentally since giving birth.”

The couple began exploring surrogacy four years ago, starting an agency that matched prospective mothers with intended parents.

It wasn’t without concerns, given that they already had children of their own, and Dan in particular was worried about his wife’s mental health after the baby was born.

She told FEMAIL: “We just had our second child, Ember. Dan and I had a boy and a girl, and we felt done with our own children, but I didn’t feel finished with being pregnant and giving birth.

“I mentioned it to Dan, we prayed about it and decided to go ahead with the process.

“Dan’s biggest reservation was how I’m going to deal with it after the birth and mine was how the kids would cope with the journey, whether everything would be medically okay, but we felt reassured when we did so we started our journey to surrogacy.”

Sam with her husband Dan Matthews. They have shared their surrogacy journey on Instagram with thousands of followers after Sam decided four years ago that she was not done with childbirth and pregnancy.

Sam with her husband Dan Matthews. They have shared their surrogacy journey on Instagram with thousands of followers after Sam decided four years ago that she was not done with childbirth and pregnancy.

Sam Matthews shows off her blossoming baby bump in the third trimester of her pregnancy as a surrogate

Sam Matthews shows off her blossoming baby bump in the third trimester of her pregnancy as a surrogate

The Matthews now live the RV life full-time and travel across the States. Dan and Sam are seen on a beach trip with their six-year-old son Canyon and their four-year-old daughter Ember

The Matthews now live the RV life full-time and travel across the States. Dan and Sam are seen on a beach trip with their six-year-old son Canyon and their four-year-old daughter Ember

She continued, “We did a lot of prayer, research and prepared for my emotional and mental state after the birth.

“We knew from the start that this wasn’t our baby, so there was no ‘second guessing’ when it came to delivery.

“The baby had his parents there and that was never my role to fill and I’ve made my peace with that.

“We are so honored to have been on this journey and humbled that God chose us to play this role to help someone raise a family.

“It’s such a rewarding feeling when the baby is born and the parents can hold the child they’ve been waiting for so many years. It was a moment we will never forget.

Sam during her pregnancy, she said she donated the milk after giving birth to another intended parent who was expecting a surrogate baby

Sam during her pregnancy, she said she donated the milk after giving birth to another intended parent who was expecting a surrogate baby

Sam and Dan have documented the whole process on their Instagram page @wearesamanddan and are now sharing their life postpartum and on the go.

During the pregnancy, Sam shared labor, birthing tips, and how she dealt with third trimester fatigue.

The mother of two also shared tips on surrogacy and which avenues to take if you’re interested yourself.

She said: “You can go independently or with an agency and not all paths are created equal.

“The downsides of being self-employed are less support during pregnancy, but it can be more costly for the intended parents. I share my experience with both on my site. I didn’t have a good experience with the very first agency I had.’

Sam is often asked on her Instagram page how she explained the surrogacy situation to her children, and she said on her Instagram Stories, “It’s been suggested that a big family trip we do and a gift ‘from the baby’ helps You understand, both children were looking forward to the birth.’

Sam in the hospital after the birth. She said:

Sam in the hospital after the birth. She said: “First of all, knowing that the baby wasn’t genetically ours made a huge difference. This little one has a mother and father who love her very much. Seeing the joy on their faces from the moment the baby came into this world was what this journey was about.

When asked what happens to the unused milk, Sam reveals that she expressed the milk as she would with her own children and donated it to other surrogate parents since the parents of the baby who gave birth to her had no need of the milk.

She said: “I was amazed at what my body could produce and we decided to donate the expressed milk to a family who are expecting a surro baby, which they needed – as ours told us they didn’t.”

Sam and Dan are currently not in touch with their intended parents, who were present at the birth of the baby boy Sam was carrying, and “respect” that decision.

They said: “It depends on the wishes of both parties.

“We wanted to have a close relationship with our intended parents after the birth as this process was such a big part of our lives, but we know that surrogacy means a lot emotionally for the parents and we understand that wishes can change .

Sam and Dan, pictured, are currently not in touch with their intended parents, who were present at the birth of the little boy Sam was carrying, and

Sam and Dan, pictured, are currently not in touch with their intended parents, who were present at the birth of the little boy Sam was carrying, and “respect” that decision. At the moment they are concentrating on their own family and exploring the world.

“At this point we don’t think the parents want to keep in touch and we want to respect that decision.”

Sam has managed to be a surrogate and is “frustrated” by some myths about the process.

She told FEMAIL: “People assume that a surrogate cannot handle the delivery of the baby.

“To be a surrogate you have to be emotionally ready. Parents should want their surrogate to be emotionally invested in their baby throughout her journey. This allows the surrogate to best take care of the baby. There’s a reason why not everyone is a substitute.

“At the end of the day we know this baby is not ours and therefore we can ‘hand over’ the baby.

“It’s weird how feelings can be divided but we know the baby was and always will be the intended parents, we just helped him grow and protected him for her.”

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