A woman has vented her frustration at her boyfriend’s misbehaving nephews after they ruined the couple’s date night.
The woman attended the British Parents’ Forum Mamasnet to explain that she and her partner were like “on-call childcare” to her sister-in-law.
She talked about hanging out with the eight- and ten-year-old before a dinner they had been looking forward to for weeks.
And this wasn’t the first time their plans had been derailed. The teenagers had already made the woman angry by damaging various items – including her iPad.
Parents took to the comments to express their condolences for the aunt, noting that the children appeared to be “very badly behaved.” One of the children said she should tell her partner to move out if he doesn’t start putting her first.
The woman believes her partner’s misbehaving eight- and ten-year-old nephews are destroying their relationship. She no longer wants to be burdened with this in the short term (archive image)
The woman explained that her sister-in-law ruined their date because she asked her partner to look after the boys.
He agreed because his sister complained that she and her husband were having a “stressful week” at work.
Despite having dinner plans weeks in advance, he agreed to take care of his nephews instead.
The anonymous woman explained: “This led to an argument and I ended up going to the restaurant with a friend.”
She added that the man was discouraged because she went to the fancy restaurant without him.
He also reportedly sulked because she didn’t want to change her plans to spend time with him and eat pizza with the boys.
However, she claimed the teens were extremely “destructive” and overbearing, citing the fact that the two had already damaged her iPad, which she eventually had to repair.
The defiant children had already broken the woman’s iPad and stained her favorite bag. One of the boys even interrupted her while she was attending an important work meeting from home
“My favorite bag has a disgusting stain because they touched it with ice-soaked hands,” she added.
The woman went on to explain that her partner had recently moved in with her and his sister was asking her to look after the children every two weeks or more – even if both were working.
At one point, her sister-in-law gave just two hours’ notice before dropping off one of the boys while the couple worked from home.
The teenager, who was with them because his brother was at a soccer game, ran amok while the woman was attending an important meeting.
Complaining that her partner couldn’t control the boy, she wrote: “Nephew kept opening the door to my office while I was working.” I locked the door. He kept banging on the door as he ran around.’
At the end of the post she explained: “I love that he’s close to his family. “But I think there’s a limit and I can’t handle it anymore.”
Parents expressed their overwhelming support for the woman, with a whopping 96 percent agreeing that her perspective was “reasonable.”
Many called on the woman to get her partner out of the house, with one writing: “I would ask him to move out again!” “The work thing is completely unacceptable.”
Another added: “Well he obviously has no respect for you, your home or your possessions.”
Parents flocked to the comments to offer their support to the woman, with many urging her to tell her partner to move out
“I can’t understand why he’s still there!” “If the relationship is to last, a separate lifestyle is necessary.”
Others pointed out that their partner has issues with boundaries: “The problem isn’t the fact that his sister asks him to look after his nephews every now and then.” It’s that he can’t say no. He has to put you first.’
One person commented: “He can take them out or start saying no. ‘He shouldn’t have them when he’s working and can’t supervise them.’
One praised the woman for sticking steadfast to her plans, writing: “I’m so glad you went out, I would have done the same!”