A young woman has recorded what she says was “an awkward first date” in which she was told she wasn’t good-looking enough to get a free meal – and should offer to pay for it.
The date went on to explain that she had to slide her card under the table – to make it look like he had paid as he had “a reputation to uphold”.
The video, created by Winta Zesu, appeared to be staged but appears to reflect the dating scene in New York City, where she lives and works.
Some men were outraged by the video, telling her in comments that it was an unfair view of dating culture, before being heavily attacked by the women who watched the video.
The video begins with the 21-year-old eating her meal – before being chastised by her date for “eating too quickly.”
“The food isn’t going anywhere, are you enjoying this date or not,” the man says in voiceover.
A young woman has recorded a very awkward first date where she was told she wasn’t good-looking enough to get a free meal – and that she should even offer to pay for it
He then asked if she even liked Italian food before telling her that she would pay for the meal.
When she told him that she “didn’t have her card with her” and couldn’t pay for the meal, he called her unladylike and said it was rude to expect the man to pay.
“I thought you were rich, you told me you came from a wealthy family,” he added.
The video ends with her asking him to stop.
“I’m trying to eat and walk.”
Most people believe the video was staged but accurate – and that it sparked an explosive debate.
“I know this is a skit and I know this guy is a tool.” But there is a basis to what he’s trying to convey. “A lot of girls take dates just to go out and get free food,” one man said.
“It’s very hurtful and inhumane for a man to really like you and have to sit through an entire dinner where he knows you only showed up because he wanted to pay,” he added.
He explained that he had been on a date where a woman was clearly not interested and left when the appetizers arrived – wishing her well – and explained that he wasn’t going to sit around and watch her go for free ate.
But others disagreed – many called the man toxic and urged her to “escape”.
“Everything that came out of his mouth was wrong – please tell me that was said because that sounded like toxic masculinity at its worst,” one woman said.
“That sounds like my toxic ex.” “He made me pay for everything for two years and told me how lucky I should feel to be with him,” said another.
“I once went on a date where the guy told me his card didn’t work and he was going to send me the money back, but he never gave me any money back.” To all the girls out there, never pay for a guy if he’s not yours man is. “Total waste of money,” warned another.
Some praised her.
“Boss moment: ‘Can you stop talking, I’m trying to eat.’ The absolute assassination of his ego was unfortunately necessary.”
But other women said they would have left the meal much earlier.