An author has gone viral with a hilarious video outlining her 15 rules for a successful first date.
Eli Rallo, a New York content creator with 550,000 followers, shares her tips, from what to wear to the best day of the week to hang out.
Eli, who posts under the name @thejarr, has become a social media hit thanks to her light-hearted clips offering advice to women.
In the latest video, she says the first — and possibly most important — tip is to have your first date on a Thursday.
She says: “The most elite day for a first date is Thursday. Why? On a Thursday you can tell someone what are your plans for Saturday? And then you can go out with them on Saturday or brunch on Sunday.
Eli Rallo, a New York content creator with 550,000 followers, shares her tips, from what to wear to the best day of the week to hang out. Pictured at the Tony Awards in June
The author shared her hilarious first date dating tips, which include having your date on the same night as your other single friends
“It’s the perfect proximity to a weekend where you can make plans for a second date before Monday and then know how you feel about it before the new week starts.”
She also advises how to prepare for a date by drinking 1.5 glasses of anything — be it red wine or Diet Coke — to “pump up.”
She adds, “While you’re doing this, you gotta listen to Ariana Grande. It just makes you feel good before you go on a date.”
She adds, “Rule number 4 is you don’t have to text a person all day every day before you go on a first date.
Rules for a first date
1. It’s a Thursday
2. 1.5 glasses rule before the game
3. The Ariana Grande Rule
4. Don’t become a pen pal
5. Date same night as friends
6. Drinks are king
7. Canadian tuxedo and cute sweater
8. Don’t add to contacts
9. Use manipulative psychology
10. Tell a comedic traumatic story
11. Sharing food
12. Don’t text first
13. Discuss the five most popular albums
14. Follow the thumbs-up rule
15. Make tentative plans for afterward
“You do not know her. Don’t become a pen pal. You want to meet them in person, not over the phone.”
Another piece of advice she gives is to plan your first date on the same night as your other single friends.
She said: “You will all come together. You will all go to the pre-game together. You’ll all get ready together, then you’ll all go on a first date, and then you’ll come home and regroup. It’s really fun.’
She says, “On a first date, it’s important to have a drink because it gives you something to hold and something to do.”
She adds that even if you don’t want to go out for a drink, go for a coffee so you “have something to sip on to make you more comfortable.”
She also advises wearing a Canadian tuxedo in spring or summer, but wearing an “F-me sweater” in cooler months — something that exudes confidence but is also “soft and huggable.”
Another important rule is not to add the person you are dating to your phone contacts until after the third date.
She says, “You don’t have to include real estate in your phone contacts until the third date.”
In a slightly quirky tip, she also says that straight men fall in love with a woman when they have time to think about her.
She says: “Straight men fall in love during the time when they can unconsciously think about you.
“So have an amazing first date and then go. Give him time to think about you and fall in love with you.’
The author regularly compiles lists of rules for her 550,000 followers. She has rules for everyday of the week, how best to date and how to get out of a funk
But she warns that the first date with a woman won’t work, as women fall in love through sex and intimacy.
She adds that you should tell at least one comedic traumatic story during the date — to show your potential partner what’s in store.
And she says that if you don’t want to stay here, you should make “tentative” plans for afterward with your friends, so you have somewhere to go.
The post has been played 1.7 million times, with many applauding the list of tips.
One follower wrote: “Thursday is perfect too because when things are going badly you can use the excuse ‘I have to get up early for work’.”
Another wrote: “I like the idea of going on dates the same night as your friends. That sounds funny.’
A third wrote: “This is an iconic rules list. Wow.’
Author Eli often shares “rules” on her social media pages. She has previously shared rules for dating site Hinge; This includes not wearing sunglasses in photos or trying to be someone cooler than you.
She also shares common rules for a Monday, which includes getting up at 7am and making a glittery to-do list that you’re more likely to complete.
And her list of “how to get out of a funk” includes making the bed, putting away at least three things, and going for a walk.
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-11164133/Woman-shares-dating-rules-going-Thursday-never-pen-pal.html?ns_mchannel=rss&ns_campaign=1490&ito=1490 Woman shares her dating rules of always going on Thursdays and never becoming a ‘pen pal’